21 memos from your child

  1. Don’t spoil me. I know quite well that I ought not to have all that I ask for. I’m only testing you;
  2. Don’t be afraid to be firm with me. I prefer it – It makes me feel more secure;
  3. Don’t let me form bad habits. I have to rely on you to detect them in the early stages;
  4. Don’t make me feel smaller than I am. It only makes me behave stupidly “big”;
  5. Don’t correct me in front of other people, if you can help it. I’ll take much more notice if you talk with me in private;
  6. Don’t make me feel my mistakes are sins. It upsets my sense of values;
  7. Don’t protect me from consequences. I need to learn the painful way sometimes;
  8. Don’t take too much notice of my small ailments. Sometimes they get me the attention I need;
  9. Don’t be too upset when I say, “I hate you.” It isn’t you I hate, but your power to thwart me;
  10. Don’t nag. If you do, I shall have to protect myself by appearing deaf;
  11. Don’t make rash promises. Remember that I feel badly let down when promises are broken;
  12. Don’t forget that I cannot explain myself as well as I should like. This is why I’m not always very accurate;
  13. Don’t tax my honesty too much. I’m easily frightened into telling lies;
  14. Don’t be inconsistent. That completely confuses me and makes me lose faith in you;
  15. Don’t put me off when I ask questions. If you do, you will find that I stop asking and seek my information elsewhere;
  16. Don’t tell me my fears are silly. They are terribly real, and you can do so much to reassure me if you understand;
  17. Don’t ever suggest that you are perfect or infallible. It gives me too great a shock when I discover that you are neither;
  18. Don’t ever think it is beneath your dignity to apologize to me. An honest apology makes me feel surprisingly warm toward you;
  19. Don’t forget how quickly I am growing up. It must be very difficult to keep pace with me, but please do try;
  20. Don’t forget I love experimenting. I couldn’t get on without it, so please put up with it;
  21. Don’t forget that I can’t thrive without lots of understanding love, but I don’t need to tell you, do I?

Source Olga Zhuravskaya

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