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Easy choices, hard life; Hard choices, easy life. – Unknown


How to raise successful kids


An easy way to improve your parenting

Some people are just naturally brilliant at parenting. I don’t think I fall into that category unfortunately. However, what I am doing is consciously spending time & effort learning how to do better. Here’s how…

I just finished reading…

 – an easy read, full of practical steps you can take action on today.

I have previously read…


  – a bit annoying in that the author keeps referring to her other books but still full of thought-provoking points.

Other materials that have helped…

21 memos from your child

Permission to Relax as a Parent? Granted!

How to raise successful kids

I’m not saying that all your problems will be solved by following the track I’m taking. However, my stress levels would be a lot higher if I hadn’t actively done something.

My Shutterstock Portfolio


Sunny Spot

Our neighbour’s cat found a place to catch the early morning sun


Johari Window


(known to self and others)

friendly, intelligent, knowledgeable, responsive

Blind Spot

(known only to others)

calm, cheerful, clever, confident, dignified, helpful, idealistic, independent, logical, mature, observant, self-assertive, self-conscious, trustworthy


(known only to self)

organised, sensible


(known to nobody)

able, accepting, adaptable, bold, brave, caring, complex, dependable, energetic, extroverted, giving, happy, ingenious, introverted, kind, loving, modest, nervous, patient, powerful, proud, quiet, reflective, relaxed, religious, searching, sentimental, shy, silly, spontaneous, sympathetic, tense, warm, wise, witty

Dominant Traits

57% of people think of me as helpful
85% of people agree that I am knowledgeable
71% of people think of me as logical

All Percentages

able (0%) accepting (0%) adaptable (0%) bold (0%) brave (0%) calm (14%) caring (0%) cheerful (14%) clever (14%) complex (0%) confident (28%) dependable (0%) dignified (14%) energetic (0%) extroverted (0%) friendly (42%) giving (0%) happy (0%) helpful (57%) idealistic (28%) independent (14%) ingenious (0%) intelligent (28%) introverted (0%) kind (0%) knowledgeable (85%) logical (71%) loving (0%) mature (14%) modest (0%) nervous (0%) observant (42%) organised (0%) patient (0%) powerful (0%) proud (0%) quiet (0%) reflective (0%) relaxed (0%) religious (0%) responsive (28%) searching (0%) self-assertive (14%) self-conscious (14%) sensible (0%) sentimental (0%) shy (0%) silly (0%) spontaneous (0%) sympathetic (0%) tense (0%) trustworthy (28%) warm (0%) wise (0%) witty (0%)

Created by the Interactive Johari Window on 3.4.2017, using data from 7 respondents.
You can make your own Johari Window.
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Peddling a SmarTrike


A week off…

The culmination of a week’s worth of digging in the garden

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Member of the Magic Circle

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Visit to Santa’s Grotto


Passing CSM exam is…

…akin to passing Grade I music exam in 1 instrument.  There is so much more to learn; it’s only the beginning of a lengthy journey.


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Parkour Training


Become a Better Listener

One of my professional development goals is to become a better listener (I’m guilty of jumping in with answers far too quickly) so this post will become a log of all the material I’m using to achieve that goal.

  1. Crucial Conversations: Tools for talking when stakes are high – I need to read it again but my key take away from the 1st pass is to create a safe space when discussing difficult topics;
  2. Conversation Patterns for Software Professionals – “nature abhors a vacuum”?  Maybe so but in conversation, it can work to your advantage;
  3. The 7 Things Great Listeners Do Differently – a mix of common sense & good manners. No earth shattering revelations here;
  4. Project Management Coaching – Michael Nir;
  5. It has been said that we have been given two ears and only one mouth, so we should listen twice as much as we talk. Listening is an art form, and asking questions is a tool to active listening. Yet, asking a question, without listening to the answer, is one of the fastest ways of showing a team that you don’t care about them. Good questions have to be followed up by attentive listening.

  6. Tuning In: Improving Your Listening Skills;
  7. Become a Better Listener by Responding, Not Reacting;
  8. Become a Better Listener by Following These Five Rules

Agile Book Recommendations

A collection of easy to read books on Agile…

Parenthood Photography Walking

High Force Waterfall

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At The Zoo

Parenthood Uncategorized

21 memos from your child

  1. Don’t spoil me. I know quite well that I ought not to have all that I ask for. I’m only testing you;
  2. Don’t be afraid to be firm with me. I prefer it – It makes me feel more secure;
  3. Don’t let me form bad habits. I have to rely on you to detect them in the early stages;
  4. Don’t make me feel smaller than I am. It only makes me behave stupidly “big”;
  5. Don’t correct me in front of other people, if you can help it. I’ll take much more notice if you talk with me in private;
  6. Don’t make me feel my mistakes are sins. It upsets my sense of values;
  7. Don’t protect me from consequences. I need to learn the painful way sometimes;
  8. Don’t take too much notice of my small ailments. Sometimes they get me the attention I need;
  9. Don’t be too upset when I say, “I hate you.” It isn’t you I hate, but your power to thwart me;
  10. Don’t nag. If you do, I shall have to protect myself by appearing deaf;
  11. Don’t make rash promises. Remember that I feel badly let down when promises are broken;
  12. Don’t forget that I cannot explain myself as well as I should like. This is why I’m not always very accurate;
  13. Don’t tax my honesty too much. I’m easily frightened into telling lies;
  14. Don’t be inconsistent. That completely confuses me and makes me lose faith in you;
  15. Don’t put me off when I ask questions. If you do, you will find that I stop asking and seek my information elsewhere;
  16. Don’t tell me my fears are silly. They are terribly real, and you can do so much to reassure me if you understand;
  17. Don’t ever suggest that you are perfect or infallible. It gives me too great a shock when I discover that you are neither;
  18. Don’t ever think it is beneath your dignity to apologize to me. An honest apology makes me feel surprisingly warm toward you;
  19. Don’t forget how quickly I am growing up. It must be very difficult to keep pace with me, but please do try;
  20. Don’t forget I love experimenting. I couldn’t get on without it, so please put up with it;
  21. Don’t forget that I can’t thrive without lots of understanding love, but I don’t need to tell you, do I?

Source Olga Zhuravskaya


The power of “Not yet!”…

…as the answer to “Can’t you [achieve something]?”

I.T. Parenthood

Agile Getting Everywhere

The Agile Methodology has many applications; this is not one I expected.