Half Way There

Well, in a little over 6 months, it’ll be Mr. & Mrs. Alex Fleming.  I know we’re not the first but that’s big!

I swear by to-do lists and so I gathered some together to get an idea of where we should be up to by now and more importantly, what we might have forgotten.  It was quite satisfying to see that we’re pretty much on track.  There are a few things we haven’t done yet which we should have by now according to this list but we have already ticked off some of the up-coming stuff.  So it balances out quite nicely.

I started reading up on wedding traditions and related folklore.  I saw one about doing very weird stuff with lozenges.  I’ll leave the possibilities up to your imagination.  Suffice to say at that point, I stopped reading.

Last weekend, we both independently chose the same set of vows.  It’s surprising how much of a boost little things like that can give.  Some things we expected to be easy haven’t always been while other seemingly more difficult stuff just fell into place.

The florist is happy to put together buttonholes with heather and white flowers.  This was one of the things given more prominence than it really deserved.

I spent a whole day researching and booking flights and the first few nights of the honeymoon.  I found that Expedia do not always quote the cheapest price or the most direct flight.  We booked direct with both the airline (for the most direct flights) and the hotel (because it was much cheaper).  My credit card got such a shock I haven’t dared use it since.

The wording for the invites has gone off to the design/print company and so now we’re just waiting on them coming back with ideas.

All in all, a very productive holiday season.

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There’ll be Music and Flowers

Finally!!!  The music for both the ceremony and the reception is decided.

A friend of ours is a music teacher but she also plays in a string quartet and so we’ve asked them to play at the ceremony.  We’ve listened to those wedding music CDs I mentioned before.  For me, it’s not so much about demanding certain pieces; more about the pieces I don’t want.  I’ve told Vicky that she’d better not be too late, leaving me to listen to some obscure playlist.

For the evening reception, we’ve booked The Bedroom Orchestra (aka Tristan Mackay).  He’s a regular busker in Leeds city centre and there are loads of clips of him doing just that on YouTube.  I will admit to being a little dubious about whether, as a one man band, he could create the party atmosphere we want at the reception but after speaking to him on the phone, that fear quickly went away.  We decided against Three Men and a Bass in the end.  There were just too many instances of them not getting back in touch for long periods of time; they didn’t seem to want or care about the booking enough.  If it was going to be this hard getting in touch with them this long before the wedding, how hard was it going to be in the weeks and days in the run up to the big event?

We recently got a text message from our florist; she’s had her baby and all’s well.  We also got her quote along with the ideas she has for the various floral arrangements.  They look really good!  Having said that, there’s a discussion going on about what kind of button-hole I’m going to wear.  I’m told that traditionally, it should be a heather but I’m struggling to find out if that’s true.  Anyone got any reference points for me?

The best man now knows he’s wearing a kilt and is not nearly put out enough for my liking.  He’s still promising a speech to top all wedding speeches.  Apparently, his wife is vetting them and has ruled out three versions to-date.

There’s a Dress, a Magician and a Florist

We have a dress! Or rather Vicky has chosen a dress. I know nothing more about it other than it’s from Wedding Belles of Otley. I also know that the bridesmaids’ dresses are 2-tone pink. I’ve seen some cloth swatches and some pictures of flower bouquets and they look a really good match. As for sorting out my own attire, I must admit, I’ve done zip about that. There’s still loads of time! (Famous last words)

The magician is sorted. We met him at the Devonshire Arms to discuss what we were looking for. It’s bread-and-butter stuff to him. He showed us a couple of tricks and I could work out how one of them could be done; I just couldn’t see him doing it!

The guest list is pretty much there too. I don’t think(!) we’ve forgotten anyone . Now all we have to do is work out where people are going to sit. We had thought of just assigning people to tables and letting them place themselves but we’re mulling that over some more.

Sorting out the evening music (which is one of the things people will really remember) is proving more difficult than it really should be. Three Men and a Bass have been recommended to us but getting a dialogue started with them is like pulling teeth. We’ve given them a deadline so we’ll see what happens.

We met with our preferred florist yesterday. The deal with the Devonshire Arms includes table centre pieces but the room itself will need some inspired decorating as it’s a very bland space; it could be used for anything from a board meeting to a funeral service without too much effort. Susie loves it simply because, as a result of its sterileness, the scope of how it could be decorated is wide open.  Also, you’ve got to hand it to her; her dedication is unquestionable!  She met with us even though her 3rd baby was due any day now.

Wedding Fayres are an Eye-Opener

Oh my {insert your preferred deity here}!!!!!!

We went to the Wedding and Lifestyle October 2010 event at the Great Yorkshire Showground in Harrogate at the weekend.  The showground itself is massive but the event was relatively easy to find even with a smart-a%@e for a parking attendant.

Inside hall 2 were a myriad of stands and small business owners plying for trade, thrusting business cards and pamphlets at us, accosting us for contact details to put on their mailing lists “…for all the latest offers”, etc.  Under any other circumstance, I would be saying “I’m just browsing, thanks!” but I think I was just too gob-smacked by it all.  There were service providers there offering stuff that no bachelor would EVER dream of when organising a wedding.  Who’s bright idea was it to tie up the napkins with ribbon?

Eventually, I did get to chat with some “normal” people like the heavily pregnant florist from Ripon and the self-confessed would-be bridezilla photographer.  It was a little disheartening telling people like this that we’d already sorted whatever they were trying to sell.  Thinking about it now, I should have taken their business cards and given them a mention here.  I’m ALWAYS doing that; some of my best EUREKA moments arrive 48-ish hours late!

As for the rest, the catwalk show could’ve been a lot more polished to get the maximum effect.  As it was, it came across as cheesy. The “man creche” was empty; it just didn’t appeal.

For brides-to-be, I think events like this are a must.  For virgin grooms-to-be, I would say the same thing but for a different reason.

Sorting out bits and bobs

There’s not really been much progress of late. Other things have distracted us both from doing very much. So the To-Do list looks something like this at the moment…

1) select music for during the ceremony – I know that Vicky’s given this some thought as there are some wedding music CDs knocking about;

2) find a (jazz?) band for night do – we have listened to some samples online and we’re waiting to hear back from 1 enquiring e-mail;

3) sort out some kind of entertainment (magician?) for wedding breakfast – there will be quite a few kids at the wedding breakfast and rather than them getting bored during the speeches, we’re going to distract them in some other way;

4) contact the florist and room dresser about the colour scheme – I’ve always said that I was getting married in a kilt and so this is waiting on me finding a tartan. I’ve got 1 in mind; I just need to make a final decision. I haven’t told the best man that 1 yet. I’m not sure how that’ll go down.