The main purpose of the Groom’s speech is to thank a variety of people. It should be short and informal but sincere at the same time. It does have some scope for humour but don’t go overboard. Starting your speech with the words “On behalf of my wife and I…” WILL raise a cheer and give you a confidence boost for delivering the rest of it.
The following is the structure of the speech I gave when I got wed. I hope you find it useful.
TIP: Before you stand up to deliver your speech, think of something that makes you laugh or smile. In that way, your guests will see you rise with a big smile and not a look of dread.
Say thank you to…
- …the father of the bride – for his speech which normally precedes yours;
- …all your guests for coming. It is worth mentioning specifically those that have travelled a fair distance and perhaps those who couldn’t be with you on your big day;
- …both sets of parents and families – include a sincere compliment;
- …your ushers – they have probably been busy in the background, fixing stuff so you weren’t bothered with it;
- …the staff at your reception venue – there is still quite a bit of the day to go after you’ve spoken so buttering them up a little won’t hurt;
- …any individuals you’d like to thank specifically for their contribution to the day’s events. Don’t go overboard here or you will get tired of saying the words “Thank you!” after a while;
- …your bride – for agreeing to marry you. You’ll score MAJOR browny points if you compliment her here. In fact, it’s expected!
You should also thank your best man (perhaps with a bit of mickey taking thrown in – he’s about to have free rein on you) and the bridesmaids but hold off on these thanks until the end. Your speech should end with a toast to the bridesmaids.
The second part of your speech should cover what marriage to your bride means to you. Include some anecdotes from your courtship and/or how you proposed. This is the ONLY time your mates will forgive you for being sentimental but again you can inject a little humour.
And, as I said above, end with the toast, “To the Bridesmaids!!”
I found the following web links particularly useful when preparing my speech…
After all the above, the rest is down to you. Remember to practice, practice, practise!! Deliver your speech to a blank wall or an empty room. Do this out loud. What reads well on paper or sounds good in your head may not sound so good when you actually say it. It may not flow as well as you thought.
Finally, on the day, relax and enjoy one or two drinks with your guests. One or two should be enough!