The main purpose of the Groom’s speech is to thank a variety of people. It should be short and informal but sincere at the same time. It does have some scope for humour but don’t go overboard. Starting your speech with the words “On behalf of my wife and I…” WILL raise a cheer and give you a confidence boost for delivering the rest of it.
The following is the structure of the speech I gave when I got wed. I hope you find it useful.
TIP: Before you stand up to deliver your speech, think of something that makes you laugh or smile. In that way, your guests will see you rise with a big smile and not a look of dread.
Say thank you to…
- …the father of the bride – for his speech which normally precedes yours;
- …all your guests for coming. It is worth mentioning specifically those that have travelled a fair distance and perhaps those who couldn’t be with you on your big day;
- …both sets of parents and families – include a sincere compliment;
- …your ushers – they have probably been busy in the background, fixing stuff so you weren’t bothered with it;
- …the staff at your reception venue – there is still quite a bit of the day to go after you’ve spoken so buttering them up a little won’t hurt;
- …any individuals you’d like to thank specifically for their contribution to the day’s events. Don’t go overboard here or you will get tired of saying the words “Thank you!” after a while;
- …your bride – for agreeing to marry you. You’ll score MAJOR browny points if you compliment her here. In fact, it’s expected!
You should also thank your best man (perhaps with a bit of mickey taking thrown in – he’s about to have free rein on you) and the bridesmaids but hold off on these thanks until the end. Your speech should end with a toast to the bridesmaids.
The second part of your speech should cover what marriage to your bride means to you. Include some anecdotes from your courtship and/or how you proposed. This is the ONLY time your mates will forgive you for being sentimental but again you can inject a little humour.
And, as I said above, end with the toast, “To the Bridesmaids!!”
I found the following web links particularly useful when preparing my speech…
After all the above, the rest is down to you. Remember to practice, practice, practise!! Deliver your speech to a blank wall or an empty room. Do this out loud. What reads well on paper or sounds good in your head may not sound so good when you actually say it. It may not flow as well as you thought.
Finally, on the day, relax and enjoy one or two drinks with your guests. One or two should be enough!
I’ve had a mini wake-up call. I’d been counting down to the wedding in months and more recently, weeks now that it’s in single figures. This week, someone used the phrase “…next month…”. Whilst accurate, that’s a big realisation! And I’m guessing there will be a similar wobbly moment when it becomes “…next week…”
The selection of songs for the first dance is not quite in single figures yet but it’s close. We’ve both got a favourite. Importantly, it’s the same one but there are others still in the running.
The wedding list goes live next week. We’ve had a bit of grief with their wesite doing (not so) funny things to the selections we’ve made. So if you see some “interesting” pieces on there, go for the safe option – vouchers!
The next month or so will be spent getting confirmations from suppliers, setting out the detail for each of them.
I’ve almost finished writing my speech. Next is to learn it almost parrot fashion so I only need prompt cards. There’s a little bit of everything in there so it should go down well with everyone I think.
We’re getting there!
The wedding rings have arrived in the jewellers but we’re struggling to find the time to go there and make sure they fit before getting them inscribed. Deciding on what went in the inscription was another of those “easier than I thought” tasks.
We spent hours in House of Fraser sorting out the Wedding List. We just need to go over it again one last time before it gets published because we went a bit crazy scanning things, then later removing them again & adding replacements.
It turns out we’ve got some flexibility with the seating plan. Now that all the expected RSVPs are back, we could give that some focus. However, Vicky’s PC gave up under the strain last week so that’s gone in for repair. It turns out that the graphics card went “pop” at some point.
Writing my speech has stalled. “I’m ruminating over it!” is how I’ve justified that to myself.
We’ve sorted out all the accommodation for the honeymoon. There’s 1 place where we stay for 1 night only; that’s the price we pay for staying near Cape Cod and Martha’s Vineyard for a whole 5 days. The plan now is to fully explore each place virtually as much as possible before pitching up.
I think it’s all coming together quite nicely.
The wedding rings are ordered. The look of glee on the jeweller’s face when we went back to Fattorini’s! She must be on some kind of commission. They’ll take a few weeks to be made. Then a quick check to make sure they fit before being inscribed. What with, we’re not sure yet.
I have no idea what’s being organised for the stag do. It’s all gone suspiciously quiet in my inbox.
Quite a few RSVPs are still outstanding even after the requested date. If you do get a wedding invite, please, on behalf of your hosts, return the RSVP as soon as you can and definitely before the requested date. It’s a slow torture coming home each evening to 1 or 2 replies, sometimes none for days.
Apparently “Thanks for coming – you’ve been a right laugh!” is not enough as a groom’s speech so I’ve done some reading and prep. work. The good news for me (and probably for everyone else too) is that it’s expected to be fairly short – about 5 mins. – and the structure is prescribed:
- thank everyone for coming and playing their part;
- say a few words about getting wed; &
- introduce the best man.
Easy! Even I can manage that I think. I’ll post my speech’s framework after the big day.
The most exciting thing that’s happened recently for me is booking accommodation and a hire car for the honeymoon. I’d opt for putting together a bespoke holiday any day over a travel agent’s package so we’re really looking forward to that.